We often practice rituals without even knowing it. The very fact that you woke up this morning and delighted in your favorite cup of coffee can be a ritual by the attention/intention you give it. To be fully present in the moment makes it all the richer.
Rituals are a bridge between our inner and outer worlds and remind us that we are part of a greater design. Our minds and bodies crave consistency. Rituals give us something we can count on in this ever-changing world. They also connect us to nature and the changing of the seasons.
By watching the constant shifts in nature, we realize our own cycles in life. By acknowledging them, we are reminded this season shall pass and be followed by another. Rituals provide us with a sense of renewal – time out of our everyday routine.
As a young girl, the season of autumn filled the air with excitement and anticipation in what was to come. The arrival of pumpkins, a school festival, decorations, delicious treats and free dress! Looking back, I see that the little joys and celebrations throughout the year lifted my spirit and filled me with a sense of celebration. There was always something to look forward to.
Stability and trust in the flow of life connect us to the past and the present. They invite us to mark special moments in our lives, adding deeper meaning and significance. They give us the gift of remembering and replenishing ourselves on the winding path of life. They are tools that give us the freedom to take responsibility for our lives' direction and purpose, co-create our own lives, and enjoy personally meaningful rituals.
As adults, what we choose to hold as sacred is different from our younger years. As life changes, so do our priorities. I feel the need for ritual much more after experiencing profound change and loss through Covid and the polarization we face as a global community.
There is no better time than now to choose the things, people and places that define what joy means to us. It is never too late to create new rituals and give yourself permission to let go of those that no longer bring you joy.
Invitation to Reflect
What does ritual mean to you?
What are some of the traditions or rituals you recall from your childhood?
Are there some you have chosen to keep, let go of, or perhaps simplify?
What are some of the traditions you have in your home this time of year?
Is there a ritual you would like to add to enrich your life as you experience more change?
Remember, rituals can be the smallest of things; the meaning we give to them matters most. They are personal to you and can be anything that holds meaning to you.
May you feel peace and comfort in choosing that which brings you the greatest joy!
"Armed with my positive attitude and inherent stubborn nature, I keep my mind focused and my life moving forward." ~ Amy B. Scher
Do you feel like it's time for something different in your life? If so, you're amongst many!
The Covid pandemic has forced many of us into change and the need to reevaluate the direction of our lives. Significant change never comes all at once, even though it may feel like it. Perhaps you lost your job during Covid like I did, bringing a radical shift in day-to-day living. Maybe you are one of the many who became a homeschooler or a caretaker.
Do any of these statements ring true for you at this time in your life?
I am not happy with my job.
It's difficult to make meaningful connections.
I'm searching for the missing piece.
I am not feeling good about myself.
I am not happy with my circumstances.
These feelings are challenging to navigate because we are not able to see a clear path or direction. Yet, if we pay attention to the feelings, they have an important message for us. They tell us it is time to reach for something else, that we are not meant to stay in this place. We are designed to continue becoming our best version of ourselves.
I recently discovered best-selling author Amy B. Scher. After listening to her podcast interviews and watching her videos, I felt lighter and self-assured.
I'd love to share her top three reasons why it's okay to change direction...
1. Change is inevitable
Let's face it; change is a necessity of life. You can't stop it, so why not change along with it? In fact, you should be more concerned if you don't want to make changes throughout the course of your life. When we change, we grow.
SUCCESS, in business, relationships, and life itself, comes from continuing to grow.
It's a natural part of life to evolve. That means it's perfectly okay to relaunch as you continue to evolve. And remember, if you get there and don't like it, pivot again! Look for what feels good and right, then follow that path.
2. Purpose isn't everything
You can have multiple purposes in life. As we change throughout our lifetime, our purpose changes with us.
Keep growing! Don't spend too much time and energy worrying about neglecting one purpose for another. And don't waste your resources in the wrong area because you once belonged there.
Trust that your true purpose is being true to yourself. When you do, the who, what and why will follow: WHO you serve. WHAT you're supposed to do. WHY you're here. These are secondary considerations. Work on finding your true self, and the rest will align.
3. Big isn't always better
It can be easy to get caught up on impact – is what you're doing going to be impactful? This perspective can hold you back. That's because you'll spend more time worrying about how you'll be received than doing what it is you want to do.
Instead, think small and start before you're ready. Think less about the impact of your change and focus on trusting that what you're feeling called to do will be impactful.
How does this work? If your change helps just one person in any way, even if that person is yourself, it's enough. Start with a tiny step. Just moving your intentions in a new direction, however small, is worth it.
Change doesn't wait, and neither should you. If it's time to move in a new direction, make the first step today!
Are you living a life rich with purpose, growth, experience and practicing new ways of being and becoming?
Each morning we wake up is a new beginning of infinite possibilities depending on how big we dream.
How life is feeling directly reflects the attention and intention you are giving it.
I suppose one might think of it much like building a house, and the design is your blueprint.
You begin with a foundation and build from the ground up. What comes next? The structure, windows and doors that surround you or the landscape that will grow and change with you through the seasons.
The blueprint is the design of your life. They are the principles by which you live and move through life. Belief is the blueprint and you are the builder. These principles become the actions by which we live and are founded on the very laws of nature.
To the degree we follow the principles, our life flows.
To the degree we resist the natural laws, we struggle.
When we look at anything through the perception of principles, we observe the bigger picture. There is greater purpose and meaning to what we do when we trust that a higher force leads us and when we trust the still voice within.
Life begins to flow, and we are flowing. By understanding and living by these timeless principles, we are building our house on rock, and from this foundation, we can grow into our truest, richest life!
Life's timeless principles:
May the simplicity of life's principles feel freeing and like a guiding path to support you on your journey!
"Character is your beauty. Style is your strength" ~ Debasish Mridha
Style is such a prevalent theme for most women. There seems no way of getting around it.
I remember as a young girl playing in my mother's closet amongst the smell of her perfume, colorful silky fabrics and prints. Layer upon layer of color, like a painting, only I could step into. When she would leave the closet doors open, it felt like an invitation to me – that I may dream about dressing up like her.
There was a magic to it as I tried on her high heels in every color, sauntered past the mirror and painted my lips every shade of pink. My mother clearly knew her style, and that made an impression on me, even then. I was able to step into another world of fanciful wishes, beauty and dreams.
Fast forward to my young teens, leaving the world of make-believe behind and the sheer awkwardness of not knowing what to wear or how to wear it. I can remember loving a certain look, yet it was not for me when I tried it on.
Fortunately, age has a lot to teach us about ourselves and what we are comfortable wearing. As women, each one of us is born with our own signature, personality and lifestyle. No two of us are the same – each with our own traits, inner desires and talents. Each of us is beautiful in our own special way – that something unique to only you.
I think the real lesson in beauty is discovering what that is...
Let's have a little fun!
Think about the parts of yourself you really like. Maybe it's your ears. Do you enjoy wearing earrings to spice up an outfit? The options are endless and always changing. Bold, intricate, elegant, playful, colorful. Earrings, for me, are often a reflection of my mood. Accessories are an inexpensive way to call attention to those lovely ears.
Maybe it's your shoulders. Do you choose dresses and tops that flatter and show off your shoulders? Maybe add a body cream that glistens for added sparkle!
Maybe it's your hair. It's said a woman's mane is her crown. If I could have one frivolous wish granted, it would be that every day be a good hair day!
You get the idea. Have fun with it!
I am having more fun shopping at the local consignment boutiques. It's a lot like stepping back into my mama's closet once again, still playing dress-up, only now it's for real. I am wise enough to appreciate that all the parts make up the whole of me.
The idea is to lovingly focus on the parts you do like about yourself rather than dwelling on the parts you don’t. I think you'll find that when you begin investing in the aspects you like, you will find more fun and enjoyment in the creative act of caring for your inner beauty by how you are caring for your outer beauty.
Ralph Lauren says it best: "Style is very personal. It has nothing to do with fashion. Fashion is over quickly. Style is forever."
"Every leaf speaks to me fluttering from the autumn tree." ~ Emily Brontë
I'm feeling a change in the air and a softness as the light filters through the trees. The crisp golden leaves as they fall remind me of letting go and preparing for a new season. The days become shorter for a reason. It is time to slow down and remember the bounty that is your life.
Take a sweet moment and reflect on what it means to you.
Remember that you get to choose what the fall will bring. After all, it is the season of harvest, full of rich abundance and you get to decide what that means for you.
As women, we are so often busy doing, planning, and organizing that we forget the importance of taking a lesson from nature.
Mother Nature is reminding us to shed that which we've outgrown, replenish ourselves through the practice of rest and nourishment.
We are also moving through a period of overwhelm. And nothing is quite the same. And it was never meant to be...
I invite you to join me in welcoming a kinder way as we shift gears into the autumn season.
Make yourself a daily priority.
It's an investment you won't regret. I promise!